Rant and Retreat

I am incredibly annoyed right now.  I figured out a way to build some shelves for cheaper than buying shelving and that can hold quite a bit of weight.  Well my husband decided that he wanted some too.  Guess who's job it was to go get all the supplies?  Guess who did all the measuring, and had to go to 2 stores to get it all?  That's right, me.  So see as it is his shelf and I had already done all the work, I asked him to do the heavy lifting and take the materials from my car to the basement where the I would put the shelf together.  Wouldn't you know it that I got yelled at for being "too lazy" to help him move the things to the basement.  When the shelf was for mainly my things, arts and crafts/storage stuff, I did all the work myself and let me tell you PVC pipe is not that heavy.  OK so right now I don't have a job, and I am at home, so I don't bitch that I have to cook and do the dishes EVERY night, even though it does get old being treated like a maid.  It would be nice though if my husband could at least take his trash to the where? Oh how about a trash can that is about 20 ft from where he sits, only 10 ft round trip out of the way when he goes upstairs to bed.  Instead trash just sits at his desk, on the coffee table, on the kitchen counter, on the floor, on the couch, or anywhere else he decides to put it down.  Or what about his clothes, last I checked the bathroom floor was not a dirty clothes basket.  And don't forget the bedroom floor because his clean clothes have been there for 4 months and I ask him at least twice a week to put away his clothes.  The reason I don't put away his clothes (because I used to), he told me I put them away in the wrong spots and said he wanted to do it himself.  That didn't even last a week.  When I ask him to do something, he tells me he is busy.  It's funny that busy is playing a computer game and watching TV whenever I walk into the office.  He then has the audacity to tell me that I am lazy and the house is never clean because of me.  The ring on my finger does not make me your maid or your slave.  The options I see are to take everything of his that is left out, and lock it up or give him a sticker chart like you would a 5 year old.  I don't know what he would have to do to get it back. I do know that he needs to be taught a lesson that most people learn as children.  He grew up in a house that didn't make the kids put away their things when they were done with them.  **Dear Parents, Future husbands and wives depend on this lesson later in life, so please do your kid a favor and MAKE THEM PUT AWAY THEIR OWN THINGS AND CLEAN UP AFTER THEMSELVES!!** Please don't get me wrong, it's not that the house is spotless besides his things,  I have plenty out.  I get so frustrated with the whole situation that I don't see the point in cleaning anything if he can't pick up after himself.  Oh and I have tried to make a cleaning schedule, and get him to just put things away for 15 min a night...nope he's "busy".  Does anyone else have this problem?  What did you do to help him learn? 
*sigh*deep breaths...I'm not done being angry, but I'm just ranting about the same things over and over again in my head.
On to other news, I participated in the Women in Faith retreat that our church puts on each year this past weekend.  It was good, but I saw some things that could have been improved on.  I think I would have enjoyed it more if I wasn't the only person under 40 there.  I am just at a different part of my life then they are and that changes how I feel about my faith.  I also think the theme felt like a bit of a stretch and was not interesting at all.  It did remind me that I do need to be more christian-like in my actions, and that I need to remember to thank God for the good in my life.  I tend to forget the thanking part because I have a hard time seeing the good in my life. 
I wish I had more to say, and maybe I will next time, but getting only 5 hours of sleep a night for 3 nights when you are used to getting 10, is making this girl fall asleep.  I will get back to you all about the retreat.  Cheers!

The Hidden Epicenter

I have this dream.  In this dream my whole house is organized, to the point that if I moved it would be easy peasy (lemon squeezy) because my basement would be all on shelves.  Now this is a major dream, mostly because I have to get the motivation to get it there, and to keep it there.  It doesn't help that my husband is notorious for leaving things all over the house (he never got the if you use it, put it away lesson growing up) and I give into lazy and think "well if he does it, then I can do it today..."  I have an appointment with my mom to start going through my basement to organize it and get rid of things.  I made her a deal, she helps me with the basement, then I help her with the room above the garage, then she helps me with another room etc. etc.  I choose the basement because I feel that there is a lot in my upstairs that could actually be put down in the basement because we don't use it that often.  It's like the hidden epicenter; even though we don't spend a lot of time down there, it could set the tone for the whole house.  I'm also one of those people that once it is clean, it's more likely to stay clean. 
I'm also hoping this getting organized plan will jump start the motivation that has recently been sputtering in me.  I've been crazy tired and have really just sat around all day.  It's making me hate myself.  I want to be internally motivated so I can have a clean house, and get to the gym more often.  This tells me that I do need a job.  Preferably a job that I can leave at my job at the end of the day unless I want to take it home with me. 
I'll post some before and after pictures of the basement organizing project.  I'll also take some pictures of the hubban's hydroponic gardening DIY.  Maybe I'll even let him be a guest blogger to explain what it is and how he did it.  I hope I'm not sounding all depressing, if so I'm blaming the change in the weather.  Anyways, for all you fall lovers, happy fall!  Cheers!

Good Things, Positive Thoughts

Hey everyone!  Happy Labor Day!  I read an interesting tidbit a couple days ago.  Pretty people make more money than people considered average.  (17% more for men and 12% more for women)  Now it didn't matter if you were tall or short or if you were thin or thick because a pretty/handsome face is still a pretty/handsome face.  That and seeing all these cute outfits on Pinterest started me thinking, I really need to not give in to my want to be comfy first, cute later.  I know that I feel more confident when I know I look good, turns out it could also help determine my pay.  The thing is I don't want to spend a ton of money to be fashionable.  I'm going to start looking for those classic pieces that you see coming back every season and discount knockoff pieces.  I also asked my mom for fashion and makeup lessons (no idea where I would get those but worth looking for).  I want to learn makeup basics, how to vary my routine, how to change from day to night looks, what to look for in new products, when to change out styles and products, and a great skin care program.  In my fashion lessons I want to go through my current wardrobe and create outfits, learn stores to go to to shop for discounted fashion, how to shop properly, how to change out my wardrobe according to seasons, create my own style, and how to update to keep up with fashion trends.  There is also an e-book I found that has 31 hair styles and tips that look super cute and could dress up any outfit.  As I'm re-reading this, I sound super vain, but I see it as a way to become more confident and happier with myself.  I'm still going to the gym and keeping up with that so I know I'm getting more fit, losing fat and gaining muscle.  I haven't lost any pounds though, so some days (you know those days when you feel crazy fat even though are aren't?) it gets a little discouraging. 
Later on this month I'll be attending a Woman in Faith conference for two days.  I'm a little nervous because the women that I know that attend these are older and therefore we have ways of going about things.  So it will be me trying to accept and work with other ideas and people with different values (not quite the correct word but that is all I'm coming up with).  I think it will be good for me and you can best bet believe that I'll blog about it. 
On the job front, I put in my resume for a job that I think would be the best for me.  I haven't heard anything about it yet, so this week I'm going to work on adjusting my resume to send off to other jobs.  I really like the idea of working in a dentist or doctors office at the front desk or somewhere with a similar position.  Wish me luck!
One other note, things with my husband have been pretty good.  Not that things have been bad, that is not what I'm saying at all.  I'm just saying things have been great!  He and I have made some decisions that make sense for us and will bring an exciting future.  I can't wait to share good news about the things that are coming! 
This Christmas I'm planning on making as many gifts as possible as long as they are actually cheaper than buying gifts.  I'm excited about people getting and enjoying their gifts and saving money.  I have been using Pinterest to get ideas mainly.  I need to start looking in other places but I love Pinterest.  It will be awesome if everything works out the way I'm hoping.  I'm going to start planning Christmas towards the end of October (for as little stress as possible) but I'm gift planning now to make sure I have enough time to make what I need to make. 
See how good I would be at being a stay at home mom?  Let's hope that one day that can happen.  I'm wishing happiness to you all, Cheers!